3 Things I learned from losing 30 pounds of fat in 90 days*

“Don’t talk about it, be about it.” -Unknown

My girlfriend and I were lying on my couch drinking big glasses of Malbec wine and watching Game of Thrones when she dropped 6 words that would change my life:

“Babe, you have a double chin.”

Yikes. Not exactly the words that a guy about to start a nutrition business wants to hear. She was right – I had gained 20 doughy pounds over the past 6 months. I was angry. I was embarrassed. I felt like a phony.

Who the hell was I to tell people how to handle their nutrition and get in shape when I couldn’t do it myself? You wouldn’t hire a homeless man to handle your 401k, would you?

I had the wakeup call that I needed and decided to make some huge life changes. I hauled trash bags full of shitty food to the garbage. I went to the gym twice most days. I had one cheat meal in 90 days. I never missed a meal or a workout. I got into the best shape of my life but more importantly, I learned 3 lessons that I now apply to everything in life:

1. It’s easy to appear successful – it’s hard to BE successful
We live in the digital age where everyone is an expert and charlatans are everywhere. Getting a personal training certification can be done in a weekend. A fitness blog can be setup in 5 minutes by any troll with WiFi. Useless emails can be sent out instead of doing actual work. Tweets, status updates, filtered photos and “likes” are instant gratification. The surface appearance is everything.

“Opportunity is missed by most people because it’s dressed in overalls and looks like work.” –Thomas Edison

Most people will do almost anything to avoid mastering something in this day and age but there is a progression of skills that has to happen in anything that is worthwhile. Hard work is HARD and it doesn’t happen overnight. There aren’t any short cuts.

Hard work isn’t sexy. But it’s the only way to achieve anything of significance.

2. Value Process over Outcomes

In gambling, there are many situations where the odds dictate that you take one action but you can still win when you make the incorrect decision. Some dolt can split kings in Blackjack and win a massive bet and someone else can make the correct play and lose. Over time, the odds will reward the smart bettor and humble the one that makes bad decisions.

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit.” – Aristotle

In life, there are also times where you make the right choices and don’t immediately see the positive result. Likewise, you might hear about somebody that has a diet of burgers and fries and has a great physique or somebody that climbs to the top of their profession with questionable decisions or ethics.

These people are dependent on outcomes. Outcomes can have elements of luck. You can ride the highs and lows of different results but it leads to frustration when things don’t go well immediately and overconfidence when they go according to plan.
When you play the long game and trust the process, it helps balance out the highs and lows of any endeavor. The results might come slower than you want but you know that they will come.

3. Ignore the naysayers

Too much of our identity is constructed by others that want to force their beliefs and judgements onto us. Any action that is bold and unconventional will make them uncomfortable because it is so different from their conventional pattern. Insecure people take any change in behavior as a personal attack on their values.

The only action that will not threaten others is to stay the same and stay average. Being different from others is uncomfortable. Bringing healthy meals in Tupperware to a restaurant or quitting a lucrative job to start a business is likely to make your friends and co-workers think that you have lost your shit. But remember that the average American is overweight, buried in debt and miserable at their job. Are we really that concerned about what THEY think?

“The worst thing I can be is the same as everybody else. I hate that.” Arnold Schwarzenegger.

When we get our value from within rather than from others, we are able to push past their arbitrary limits. When people impose limits on us; they should cause a ratcheting up of determination rather than unnecessary fear.

No matter what happens, commit to doing the work, stick to the process and forget caring about what others think. Or just be average until you have a dad bod and your girlfriend casually mentions your double chin – but I personally wouldn’t recommend it.

*Results not typical. Please consult your doctor before entering into any diet or exercise program.

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Disclaimer : * Results may vary. No individual result should be seen as typical. These statements have not been evaluated by the Food & Drug Administration. This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any disease.